Sunday, September 13, 2015


I really don't like Facebook. Every successive day I don't utilize the crack-like service I can sense a palpable antipathy building for the platform's mere existence, not that my hatred is exclusive to this medium, but it is certainly the layman's playground when it comes to online connection.

I've talked previously about how this particular platform is beginning to reveal manifestations of psychological deficiencies in its users. Reduced self-esteem, anxiety, diminished ability to socialize with others, and narcissistic personality development.

I've also mentioned how the platform fails to stimulate authentic debate and exchange of ideas, instead being used as  a soap-box for spineless, passive-aggressive personality types to propagate the ideas they are too weak to voice to others in person. 

Facebook is also an insult to an active mind when it comes, not only, to concise formulation of ideas or concepts to share, but also to the communication of said ideals. 

Ever scroll down a news feed and want to stab your fucking eyeballs out because nobody seems to know how to use proper fucking english anymore? Laziness abounds in articulation of information, the substance of content is frivolous and monotonous.

Another disturbing side effect, which is my primary grievance with this particular platform tonight, of the new Media Generation and their profile-centric lives is the induction of casual acquaintance culture, which has often lead to real life relational strife. 

What I mean is this: Facebook generates an environment in which you can "connect" with any number of individuals at any time of the day or night, not actually knowing anything other than what they present in their carefully crafted homepage. 

Often, these acquired acquaintances begin based on a mutual friendship and will largely remain inactive except for, perhaps, a passing "like" on a photo or post, however, when a user in a committed relationship experiences turbulence in their real, non-virtual life which drives them out of bed at night to troll their newsfeed seeking, as is a common drive within human nature, empathy through connection, they find they begin conversations with other users they barely know, have never met or haven't talked to in years.

Many of these type of acquaintances couldn't care less about the state of the user's relationship because it doesn't affect their own non-virtual life, so through those moments of vulnerability flirtation-ships are formed. If unchecked by the significant other of the user, these emotional relationships can progress from innocuous flirtations into explicit material and so forth. Humans are, after all, quite progressive and are quite diligent in the pursuit of their own self-destruction.

This is why I'm not keen on social media "friendships". I've seen situations like the one above play out numerous times, leaving in their wake destructive real life consequences. My generation doesn't understand what it takes to build an interactive, unplugged relationship with another, so when conflict inevitably causes tension and discomfort in the relationship instead of just being fucking adults and working through our shit together, like people used to do the response is to run to the concocted fantasy world online and find sympathy there.

It is a sad state of affairs we find ourselves in, in an age of connected disconnect. A state of desire to be known yet living lives of isolation, holding out for the next alluring red notification which bestows a strange and fictitious sense of dignity and recognition.

Encourage your friends to ditch Facebook, pursue the art of engaging others truly and fully. Allow your mind to be challenged and remember you aren't simply a drone. You don't need social media. Many generations have survived without it. 

Take time to break free and recognize the the insidious manipulation which has been perpetrated upon the masses...

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