Tuesday, October 13, 2015

Porn, Sex Robots and Authentic Relationships


Recently, I read an article about a startling innovation for the sex industry: the life-size, animatronic sex robot. Sadly, I wasn't surprised, but after watching the artist's interview I did become profoundly disturbed.

Firstly, this shouldn't surprise anyone. This sort of innovation has been a long time in the making. It began when we in this nation began to lose our faith in God; this was the catalyst of what was to come.

We, as a society, set the wheels in motion when we made relationships a feelings-based commodity through no-fault divorce. Next we normalized deviant behaviors by beginning the process of shattering societal taboos based on Judeo-Christian ethic. Once these types of behaviors became largely accepted in regard to human to human interaction the society realized that their insatiable love for deviancy went beyond interaction with another human being. Porn and sex shops, though they have always been around to some degree, also began to lose the stigma surrounding then. Now individuals could absorb sexual acts in th privacy of their homes without any news for the interaction that comes part and parcel to a real relationship.

As the sex industry profited from the "no-strings-attached" mentality which developed as our moral fiber deteriorated, they stepped up their game. They began to market their products to couples as well as singles under the guise of relationship enhancement. Never mind the fact that, in an authentic relationship, the answer isn't to introduce more partners when one isn't satisfied. The answer used to be that the two individuals tried to come together as a unit, and work their problems out as adults and lovers. Not so anymore.

As the sex industry profited off the exploitation of cheap sex the demand skyrocketed. The combinations and deviant acts that began to be demanded wasn't one the industry could pay enough to keep in stock. Enter the human trafficking epidemic. Rape for profit has always existed, but this industry encourages it and some of the shadier elements partake in it. After all, what do you really know about the woman on the other side of the screen?

What is her name?
Where did she come from?
Does she have a good family life?
Are her parents posting missing persons fliers at this very moments?

These questions don't have answers when it comes to the porn industry because the man, or woman, is exactly what they desire them to be to the consumer: a commodity. 

As society began to detach from normalcy in intimate relationships, they began to detach socially as well. Sex toys and robotics are the new wave of human mechanical intimacy which has usurped true social interaction. Flesh lights, vibrators, blow up dolls and a host of other "fun" toys have simply led into this new frontier of animatronic companions. 

The makers themselves claim that they are trying to create pseudo-sentience in the interest of creating an experience for the user. As if giving the robot a personality will change the fact that a human being is fucking an inanimate object which contains no soul. The idea is to craft a personality with which the user can interact, essentially trying to co-opt and counterfeit the natural bonding a human being does with his fellow man or woman. 

What is this? I Robot? Some sci-fi flick you see on late night TV? Have we truly entered the twilight zone? 

Actually, the resemblance this innovation bears to the Stepford Wives is uncanny and unnerving. It is mysiginostic, degrading and ultimately destructive to our drive to others as a species.

In my belief, God has intended you and I for authentic relationships with others. For a special companion he has included the bonding agent which is vital to our success in the endeavor of raising children in a loving home: sex. Every aspect of these good and virtuous designs has been subverted in some form. Healthy relationships have been marred by abuse, emotional bonding is being overthrown by love for inanimate things, the beauty of sex is being distorted by an industry that commoditized and created unrealistic expectations of human beings.

We must break this cycle. Stop the demand. Seek out healthy relationships with others. The history of grossest abuses perpetrated by man upon his fellow man have only been possible when an oppressor is successfully able to dehumanize his opponent. The detachment from our common humanity always leads to a decrease in empathy for our fellow man.

If we don't break this trend and restore authenticity and purpose in our lives, then we are truly destined for dark times. But I know this cycle can be broken. I used to be addicted to porn. I know the feeling of detaching from women and viewing them simply as objects for my satisfaction. It sickens me to even say it. 

The cycle was broken however, and I owe that firstly to God and secondly to my wife who truly taught me what love and forgiveness are. Thirdly I owe it to my children, my baby girls, who I desire to see loved, and genuinely cared for by a man of honor someday. A man who loves God with all his heart and will treat them as the jewels they are. A man who is a better man than I was.

The cycle can be broken, the only question is what are you doing today to break it?

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